To The Reach Approach,
Whilst studying in my first year at Nottingham University I faced some serious turbulence, following January 2020. What I mean by turbulence was a mid-course crisis. I realised I had no interest in the course I was studying at the time. One day, I was sat in a lecture, and a thought suddenly crossed my mind – I wondered why I was even taking this course. I didn’t enjoy the content; I was putting little to no effort into any of the work I was given by the University. This really started to make me feel unhappy during the start of 2020, causing me to think with a very negative attitude.
I knew that the only way for me to feel happier was to change course. I realised in the short time I had spent at university, that my real interests were not the ones I had chosen to study during my first year.
Luckily, I am blessed with one of the most supportive and positive mothers you will ever meet. Once I explained how I felt, and the situation I was in, she immediately started looking at the different routes I could take. Through sheer persistence, in spite of the inflexibility of the university, she managed to help me transfer universities so that I could study my real passions, business and economics.
Due to Covid, I along with millions of other students, was moved home at the start of March to enter the lockdown. Whilst being at home, I was able to continue my sessions with Easton but move them to a face-to-face basis. I remember speaking to Easton once I had got home and he told me that I seemed like a completely different person. I wasn’t calm, collected or even happy. He could clearly see that mentally I was in a difficult place and I had struggled to deal with events that had taken place during the summer of 2019 up until March 2020.
When I heard Easton tell me this, I realised the reason why I had spiralled out of control was because I had stopped doing the emotional freedom work, he had taught me. During that session, I told Easton that I would put 100% effort into the emotional freedom work, to really stop myself from mentally erupting.
I am now sitting here over 1 year later, feeling the most mature, confident and positive I have ever felt and the only thing that has changed in the past year has been my self-discipline.
Since that session with Easton, I have maintained the emotional freedom work pretty much every single day for the past 14 months. After 9 months, I noticed a real impact on my work ethic. I was really applying myself to all the work set by the University and this showed in my January 2021 exam results.
To anyone out there reading this, whether you are in your teenage years such as myself, or even towards the latter stages of your life, I really hope this motivates you to be disciplined and consistent, as small consistent efforts add up over a long period of time, whereas no consistency adds up to nothing!
“The day science begins to study non-physical phenomena, it will make more progress in one decade than in all the previous centuries of its existence.”
Nikola Tesla (1846-1943)
I am surprised to see the changes in me, positive changes that I did not think were possible. I was always scared of my own anger, at my reactions to my emotions, from being ‘a bull in a china shop’ to actually being able to be calm and collective. I can actually think and hear myself responding to situations that I would have normally lost control over and ran away from.
Thank you so much Donella for this lovely journey, for holding my hand and taking me through some very sad, awkward and terrible times, and teaching me to become the person I am today. Your help has been invaluable.
Thank you Donella, from the bottom of my heart.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
I have always known of a beautiful place filled with all that I have ever wanted. Destined for it I packed my rucksack with all the things I knew. Years passed yet my goal eluded me. I discovered I was rooted by fear and weighed down by the past.
I first came to Reach and started seeing Easton in 2001. My life to date had been emotionally turbulent to say the least. I had sporadic periods of happiness through childhood, adolescence and into adulthood, but in the latter years had been spiraling into depression and had also been taking anti-depressants on and off.
The catalyst to my seeking help came after 3 years of being in an abusive relationship and then having a miscarriage. I was feeling extremely low and unable to cope with my day-to-day existence and felt I was going to have a breakdown of some sort.
When I visited Easton Hamilton for the first time he explained to me Reach’s philosophy. His approach was very holistic and I liked the fact he was treating me as an individual and looking at all aspects of my life from diet and nutrition to my life history as well as helping me to cope with any challenges with which I’m presented.
During the last 6 months I have actually been doing some work on myself that I should have been doing for the last three and a half years! I could somehow never manage to knuckle down to it. I only realised I finally had to do something about my life and personality after another failed relationship.
Having now had the experience of listening to tapes, following nutritional advice, doing my mirror work and writing and reciting my personal prayer 3 times a day, as well as lots of positive thinking I now feel so much better. I cope better with day to day life, even when things don’t appear to be going well! I haven’t taken anti-depressants for about 18 months and don’t think I ever will again.
Reach and Easton have given me the awareness, insight and enlightenment to see things differently and to think differently. There have been many times when if it hadn’t been for seeing Easton I know I wouldn’t be here to day. I owe my sanity and progression as a person to him.
He has been an inspiration in so many ways to me, through his knowledge, continual support without judging me and consistent personality, even through his own adversity and traumas.
I will always be grateful to Easton for helping and giving me the confidence and self-esteem to move forward in my life and more importantly make the changes needed for a successful and happy life and in return trying to help others!!
In my heart, I have let go of the past
I have forgiven myself for my mistakes
And forgiven others for theirs.
I sit on the seat of self-respect,
Surrounded by beauty and serenity.
I depend on no-one for my well-being.
I am free of the need for others, I am self-sufficient.
Happiness and joy radiate from the innermost part of my being.
I need no external approval,
Because I know I am wonderful as I am,
A shining jewel, a miracle of recovery,
Beloved by God.
I am a powerhouse of peace.
I take every event just as it comes,
With love and detachment,
Stable as a Buddha, carefree as a well loved child.
Laughter permeates my thoughts like a clear brook,
Pealing its joyful babble into my heart.
It has washed away the worries of my life.
Any block to progress has been removed:
Progress is constant, fast, permanent in its effects.
I notice that my inner child has been healed.
Giving enriches me.
I know how special and good I am:
I have integrated this truth about me into my life.
I do not cause anyone pain or sorrow.
I know how to respect and how to understand everyone.
I relate to everyone with love.
All my relationships are harmonious.
I feel no anger.
I am wise beyond my wildest dreams.
My life is exactly as I wish it to be:
Happy, peaceful, creative, prosperous, fulfilling, positive, helpful to others, useful.
Every moment is filled with precious and clear purpose.
I am beloved.
I live every moment in a spirit of forgiveness and gratitude.
I contacted Reach (recommended by a friend) initially to get help with bereavement. I discovered that my responses to this bereavement highlighted wider personal difficulties that have affected my life since childhood. Although I was aware of these factors, I was having difficulty in moving forward emotionally and in my response to life in general. I wanted to commit myself to a broader programme of self-discovery and personal development. Although in a sense fearful of what I might discover I started on fortnightly sessions with my counsellor who was supportive, empathic, knowledgeable and non-judgmental. The sessions were flexible to meet my needs in a holistic way – but they were also challenging and difficult at times. They were clearly structured to support me on the journey I had undertaken. I was assured of safety and confidentiality.
Supporting tapes, readings and other strategies were suggested and these encouraged me to build in changes to the ways I viewed and conducted my life. I am I hope stronger, calmer, more confident and positive as a consequence. I feel a greater sense of balance and have more resources to help me ‘reach’ my potential. Thank you for your sensitivity and support.
“A person who sets his or her mind on the dark side of life, who lives over and over the misfortunes and disappointments of the past, prays for similar misfortunes and disappointments in the future. If you will see nothing but ill luck in the future, you are praying for such ill luck and will surely get it.”
Personal Prayer: When everything around me seems to go wrong
I am focused and clear in all that I do
I enjoy each day and the new challenges it brings
I am relaxed, happy and enjoy each day, both at work and at home
I am well respected and appreciated in all that I do
I enjoy a good work/life balance
The universe looks after me and helps me deal with all challenges
I have no fear of the present or the future
I am surrounded by beautiful things and wonderful people
My life is wonderful and infinitely rewarding
“I am whole, perfect, strong, powerful, loving, harmonious, and happy ….. this affirmation incorporates every single thing any human could want and will bring harmonious conditions to all things. The reason for this is the affirmation is in strict accordance with the truth and when truth appears every form of error or discord must necessarily disappear.”