I’d been punched, kicked and battered for 13 years before I found the courage to do something about it. It took me a year after deciding to make the call to actually make it. Every time I rang, as soon as it was answered I’d hang up – I just couldn’t do it. The day that changed my life was when my 8 year old daughter heard me crying and was doing her best to comfort me. Looking back now I feel ashamed of that. It’s my job to be comforting her. She asked me how I got the bruises on my back; I cried even more. And lied again. I decided in that moment that would be the last time I would lie to my children.
After 18 months of looking honestly at my life and searching my mind, I’ve learnt about the power to choose. The most important thing said to me at the outset is “your thoughts create your reality”. At first I felt insulted, as if this was a disguised negative judgment of me and I thought “but I’m not choosing this madness”. I slowly realized I wasn’t being accused of anything, I was simply being helped to understand that our realities are determined by the way we think. 5 or 6 people witnessing or experiencing the same thing all react differently because they see it or feel it through their own thoughts and experiences. This has been a very helpful insight to me as I realized I thought I didn’t deserve any better so I tolerated and accepted the violence until it was all I knew. I didn’t even question it any more. Now I feel like I’ve come out of a really bad dream. Thank God I’m free.
The practical and legal battle continues but I’m winning because I’m choosing hope over fear. I’ve promised myself I won’t be a victim any more, both for my two daughters and myself. Understanding The 3 Aspects of Consciousness has really helped me to see things differently. I try to practice it as much as I can. Also coming up with a set of ‘non-negotiables’ really helped me. When Elaine first suggested it, it was an alien concept. I’d never made myself the focus of my life, so deciding on a list of ‘dos’ and ‘don’ts’ that would ensure my growth was very odd but they really helped me to build my self-respect. The Reach resources are quite unbelievable. Any time we would talk about something, Elaine would pop up with another handout on that subject. I used to ask her if she was telepathic 🙂 How did she seem to always have what I needed!?! However, none of these resources would have been enough without Elaine’s generous and kind spirit. Thank you for always really seeing me. I now feel safe.
Grateful Mother of Two
“Not everything that can be counted counts, and not everything that counts can be counted.”
Albert Einstein (1879-1955)
I first contacted Reach because of the breakdown of my marriage and was desperate to get rid of the pain, the rage and the fear I was feeling as a result of being left alone with three small children to look after by myself. I felt completely isolated, without friends or family anywhere near by. It took some time to come to terms with what had happened – before I was ready to let go of these feelings, and I was very skeptical that I ever would. It is a miracle to me that I no longer fight daily with myself, punish myself in my mind for my failings as a woman, a wife, as a mother and as a person. My journey with Reach showed me that all aspects of my life depend upon how I feel about myself. There was great resistance to the idea that I could even like myself a little bit but I am really starting to feel that I can create a better life for my family and me. Having understood that it’s not what you know it’s what you do that counts has really changed me life. Thanks Jo! I finally got it. I finally realized that I needed to practice taking care of myself in all kinds of different ways and if I could just be consistent in this practice then positive change would be the result. I’m still trying and it’s working.
“In theory, there is no difference between theory and practice. But in practice, there is.”
Yogi Berra (1925 – present)
I’ve suffered with anxiety and panic for over 15 years. I’ve avoided travelling, job opportunities and relationships, all because I didn’t feel good enough. Over this time my world had completely shrunk and I felt invisible. For the last 18 months I have taken the most extraordinary journey with Reach. Two things have made the greatest impact on me – N.O.S.E. and The Story of Health. It was the simplicity of their messages that really grabbed my attention. They were both so obvious once I heard them and yet I’d never come across anything quite like them before. Once I got the concept of N.O.S.E. I became obsessive about it because I really could see that the more I ‘named and owned’ my stuff the more my mind was set free. As a result I’ve started to travel (no where elaborate but at least I’m not imprisoned by my four walls). I’m forming new relationships and applying for positions I never would have felt worthy of. I owe the Reach Approach so much and I’m now busy building my life on the principles of The Story of Health. This work has really changed my life and I would encourage those of you looking for help to look in this direction.
“Do the thing you fear and the death of fear is certain.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 – 1882)
“In meditation it is possible to dive deeper into the mind, to a place where there is no disturbance and there is absolute solitude. It is at this point in the profound stillness that the sound of the mind can be heard”
A.E.I Falconar (1926 – Present)
My wife and I were having some problems in our marriage and had never even considered counselling but a friend suggested Reach to us in the end as we couldn’t seem to find any common ground on our own we thought it would be worth giving it a go. Even though we are still working on some of our issues it became clear to us both very early on in the process that what we had thought the problems were, in fact were only the symptoms and by looking deeper into ourselves and understanding how our pasts were pushing into our everyday lives, over and over again, we could see the cause and effect very clearly. We have both really appreciated the practical suggestions we’ve received which have enabled us to actually change our behaviour with each other and break out of patterns that seemed to have beaten us for years. You may be in the same position as we were, thinking that counselling isn’t really for you but I can certainly say that our experience has opened our eyes and definitely saved our marriage.
“I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have.”
Thomas Jefferson (1743- 1826)
I am 75 years old and I’ve just realised, over the last few days, that I am injuring myself with my own thoughts! My current illness has been made worse by the way I think. I can’t tell you of the relief I’ve had as this has dawned on me. For the first time in my life I realise that my health and well-being are determined by my thoughts. I can either heal or damage myself just by the way I think. Easton’s support and kindness has helped change my life. I’m feeling great knowing that my health is in my own hands. Thank you, thank you, thank you. The things that have helped me the most have been mirror work and two CDs, Heal Thyself and The Path of Least Resistance. They are well worth a listen. Hope this is of some use to some one looking for help.
“You give but little when you give of your possessions. It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.”
Kahlil Gibran (1883 – 1931)
Reach has been a lifeline to me over the last 2 years. I had nowhere to turn and no one who I felt was interested enough to listen to my story. I realised I was deeply depressed and probably had been since I was a child. I have not finished the work yet but little by little I know I am moving in the right direction. The depression has faded and I can see there is a future for me. My relationships with my children have blossomed and I know will only get better, the better I get. My marriage is still in a sticky situation but I at least have hope that this too can improve. My dependence on medication has ended and slowly I’m taking back control of my life. For me, being heard has been the most important thing. I really feel like Jo cares. She has been thoughtful and attentive and this has helped me find my inner strength. I hope my words will be of some use to you as you read them.
“Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear”.
Mark Twain (1835 – 1910)